Synchronicity Pt. 1
After more than a week of slogging through a resistant blog entry on love and vulnerability, I’m switching gears to do something a little…
After more than a week of slogging through a resistant blog entry on love and vulnerability, I’m switching gears to do something a little lighter while I let love ruminate in the compost pile for a little longer.
I find it endearing that the day I decided to change my focus to a blog about synchronicities, the copy fairies dropped a most fascinating expose on the different types and meanings of synchronicities (and why they occur) into my inbox this week! Tom Montalk offers the most inspiring and plausible explanation for these phenomena that I’ve ever heard and has stirred many thoughts on the matter.
In the last entry, I told you about the impossible odds of Marita and me, living three thousand miles apart, discovering that our beds donned the exact matching bedding (comforter and sheets)…on the exact date of Oct. 18th, the one-year anniversary of our meeting in person (taking place for me both years in New Mexico, of all places). Well, that was just the start of significant events too plentiful (and marvelous) to overlook.
Synchronicities, as Montalk defines “meaningful improbabilities,” have been an important part of discerning the “right” path for me throughout my life. They feel like a private language between me and the Universe, urging me on with reassurances when I’m in the right groove, best path, or easiest flow of life. My first book, The Perfect Fit: Piecing Together True Love, is a veritable buffet of synchronicities, detailing the continuous flow of miraculous events surrounding the developing love story with my husband Steve — a flow that has continued between us since. Similarly, there have been multitudes of synchronous events with Marita, many involving Steve as well.
According to Montalk, there is a probable trajectory and outcome of our lives if we keep our heads down, grooving along in status quo, doing the same things the same way. But when we do something unexpected, courageous, or expansive, we begin to receive these curious messages from heaven that help us become more attuned, awake, and “sentient,” changing the course of history — both for ourselves and those in our path. Through demonstrating our willingness to live on the edge, we can actually attract the attention of the Universal Intelligence (and/or assistance of benevolent helper beings some call angels or guides) who participate in our awakening to our potential so we can succeed abundantly at the game of life. This is one way we can tap into the universal law of attraction, shaping or reshaping our reality and even our destiny through our divine right as co-creators.
One alluring aspect Montalk pointed to, is the fact that our cage-rattling, destiny-shaping decisions now can actually impact our past, which has somehow been demonstrated through quantum science. Imagine for a moment that we could somehow heal the traumas and even the relationships in our past by the decisions we are making in our now moment. How exciting to discover that time is more fluid and malleable than we thought!
Of course, I am not naïve to the fact that we sign-seekers can also garner enticing synchronicities that confuse, mislead, trick, or even sabotage us. I’ve had many situations in my past where synchronicities dead-ended or felt intuitively as if they were leading me away from the Light (I fully describe one such major set of synchronicities in The Perfect Fit that were a complete counterfeit that threatened to sabotage my happiness and future with Steve). Sometimes it’s so hard to tell the counterfeit from the real thing!
There are two touchstones I always go to for clarity. First, is this signpost leading me toward (or away from) love and freedom — namely freedom from fear? When I was first debunking hell and making my way out of religious indoctrination, I felt trepidation in the beginning since I had obviously been programmed to think it was dangerous to be studying the Bible on my own, without the help and interpretations of my church’s leadership team (all men, of course). But prolific message synchronicities (and simple Hebrew and Greek word studies) were the primary insignia or Universe thumbprint guiding my thinking on the path toward Love and, hence, freedom from all fear.
The second touchstone asks, is this bearing good fruit or bad fruit? Jesus said, “You will know them by their fruits” (Matt. 12:33). Such a simple yet profound guidance tool, yet it can take time — sometimes years — to accurately discern the fruits of major life decisions.
Despite my two faithful touchstones, sometimes insight about where I’m being led or what fruit is being born is elusive for unknown periods of time. From the beginning of my relationship with Marita, I have been ultra-aware of the potential for being tricked or misled, following my heart and overwhelming attraction to her into unintended consequences. Not tricked by her per se; she has proven to be an honest, beautiful soul clearly full of kindness, love, and good intentions. But for a very long time, I wrestled with questions: Who authored such a clashing of souls? Was this disorienting cosmic meeting sent for my expanding love, enjoyment, and growth, or is there a chance this was orchestrated for my undoing? What if this path was not meant for me or perhaps was distracting me from what I am really here to do? Or what if I was being suckered by another counterfeit, with those miraculous signs guiding me into utter darkness, confusion, and even ruin — consequences I might not discern until it was too late?
I still believe that some all-knowing, benevolent force outside myself contributes to the shaping and orchestrations for my ultimate good, but it seems obvious that those shapings can come in seemingly light or dark packages, and who can say which is which except by experience and hindsight? And the other question remains, who does the Universe recruit to masquerade as “angels of light” in the seemingly dark packages that play games with our lives? At the time I met Marita I had rejected any notion of devils or demons lying in wait to deceive or harm me (it’s still a murky subject). But I still had many synchronous experiences throughout my life that had felt more like tests of my will and character than “leading me home.” On the other hand, tests can be for our good — to show us areas where we have progressed, where we still need shaping, and where we need to realign our motivations.
For at least the first full year, I rallied through periodic waves of anxiety and insecurity about getting my life off track with this new, unexpected life upheaval. I had completely upset the apple cart in my marriage and family (not to mention the discomfort I felt at times with a whole new identity change). I mean, this was practically oppositional to everything I had previously practiced or believed in my old evangelical persona. The distress of not knowing anything for sure, yet having the most sincere desire to do the right thing, was compounded by a most troubling synchronicity that happened to me on March 30, 2020 during a morning time of contemplation when I received what seemed like a very explicit message from the Universe.
Stay tuned for part 2 where I will explore the ominous message and how it all played out. Plus you will learn about some unusual specific synchronicities, including one involving a poisonous snake and a hummingbird who both ventured into our house one September morning!